I am writing today about The Four Agreements. The book is by Don Miguel Ruiz and you can pick up a copy from Amazon for around 8 dollars. A lot of his writing helped me get through the anxiety of having to work with people. It also gave me a directional map on how to treat others, whether they are linked to you on a personal level or if you simply come across them each day at work. I am going to go through some of the main points with you today.
WORDS HAVE POWER – speak with integrity; do not gossip; speak in love.
DON’T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY – what others do has to do with them, more than you. At best, you can influence and even that is limited. When they say you made them do something, it is only their projection.
DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS – clarify; ask clearly for what you want, don’t assume others will know.
ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST – your best will always change according to health, circumstance and time; forgive yourself if your best is not perfect.
And that’s it!
I hope this brief summary will help you out, even if it’s just making that one step outside of your comfort zone to pursue a new social challenge or to try and wrap your head around why we think and do the things the way we do.
Do you have any other tools, tips or tricks for managing social stress and anxiety?